July 4th: the day America celebrates its independence from England. Independence is one of our culture’s most cherished values. Individually and collectively, it is burnished into who we are.
Independence is the spark of the American spirit that created a nation, launched a bold social experiment, ignited countless breakthrough technologies and industries, and told each of us that hard work can give us a living dream. Today we pay homage to that uniquely American blend of self-reliance, courage and pluck. We celebrate the abundant fruit of that.
But today is also a painful reminder of what happens when we prize independence and neglect our connectedness. Independence (like any quality on the grit-grace continuum) cannot stand apart from of its opposite and remain a healthy force. Unmediated, it becomes toxic.
And it has. Let me count (some of) the ways.
We are a nation of people who are conditioned not to ask for help, and to denigrate those who request or need it. More people are separated from family, community and opportunity. Many of us live segregated by thought, class and race, and we fear those across the divide. We have built organizational cultures that foster vicious competition and drain people’s joy and imagination. Too many of our companies make decisions that harm the very people, communities and environments that make the enterprise possible. We have withdrawn from the Paris Climate Accord and from the world.
This is a country that gasps for grace as it glorifies grit.
A larger idea is calling
Our stance of independence is neither sustainable nor practical in this world. Look around and see the harm that it’s doing. It is time to claim both our self-reliance and our connectedness. Interdependence is the only stance that can advance us now, and we should claim it as our next bold aspiration.
And do it, like, today. So Happy Interdependence Day. Let’s get going.
What about you/us?
Independence was this country’s and culture’s first bodacious and beautiful aspiration. What if we claimed interdependence as the next frontier?
- What would it feel like if you lived life more aware of the people, systems, and ecologies on which your comfort and possibilities depend?
- What would it feel like if you remembered the people, systems and ecologies that are affected by your actions and decisions? How would that change what you do?
- What would your community need to shift in order to make high-quality resources equally accessible to every resident? What would it take for all public spaces to feel welcoming to all members of the public?
- How would your organization change if its leaders understood that they were as dependent on their employees as the employees are on them?
- How would our companies change if they treated their community and environment as true stakeholders on whom their success depended?
- What would shift in this country if we embraced, philosophically and practically, ‘interdependence’ as our bold new value and promise?
Are you a leader who wants to better blend grit and grace in how you lead?